Spirituality, Forgiving, and Letting go: 10 Tips to Free Yourself From Resentment

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One of the most beneficial things you can do for your emotional well-being is to forgive. Forgive everyone who has ever hurt you, let you down, ripped you off, and anyone you perceive as the “enemy.”
Why? Because holding on to resentment toward someone depletes your energy, delays spiritual progression and growth, and makes your life more stressful. Forgiveness will not make you let your guard down, make you overly-vulnerable, or allow the troublemaker to continue hurting you if you don’t want it to. In fact, it will make you stronger and possibly even protect you from further harm.
Below are 10 tips to help you forgive and let go.
1) It’s important to note that forgiveness is a process. It doesn’t usually happen overnight. Commit to it and eventually the negative feelings will fade.
2) If you’re having trouble forgiving someone, try the following exercise. Meditate on the situation and person and visualize them in front of you. Explain why you’re upset, then tell them you forgive them. Notice the reaction you perceive them to have. Do this until you can feel your forgiveness, and remember it’s not for them, but for you. Every time you think of the person express forgiveness to them.
3) Try to view the situation from their viewpoint and consider all the possible reasons why they acted as they did (such as experiences in their childhood, lack of awareness, emotional or mental instability, neurosis, possession, etc.). Try to feel compassion for them, though at first it may seem easier to turn water into wine.
4) Accept that whatever happened may be something you chose, on a karmic, spiritual level, to experience. Take responsibility for your part of what happened “to you.”
5) Realize that if you don’t forgive them, guess who you’ll get to come back with in a future life for another round? That should help you let go of the resentment more quickly.
6) Realize that they will get what’s coming to them eventually, even if it doesn’t appear so to you. Our findings indicate that karma often doesn’t return to someone until future lifetimes. You do not have to, and should not attempt to assist this process, by the way. If you do, you will create more negative karma for yourself. Revenge with no apparent consequences may have been a popular theme in the 80s show Dynasty, but unlike in TV-land, vengeance comes with a heavy spiritual price in the real world.
7) Life is demanding. Instead of targeting someone with animosity and creating more tension and trauma, try other activities like meditation, exercise, watching funny movies, or doing something nice for someone. Lighten up and let it go. Life is too magnificent to waste it being angry.
8) Forgive, but don’t forget. Be compassionate, yet stand your ground.
9) Remember to forgive yourself. It’s amazing how many people have managed to forgive others, but have not found the self-love to forgive themselves.
10) Go through the following list and forgive everyone. Feel the www.8ballpoolhackcheat.com/8ballpoolhack/ forgiveness. Express the forgiveness. Remember, it’s not for them. This is for you.
Forgive…
your parents for ignoring or smothering you
your mom for embarrassing you
siblings for being too hard on you
your sister for hitting on your high school boyfriend
that strife-generating coworker
the office ass-kisser
the office tattle-tale
the office opportunist
the office back-stabber
bosses who took advantage of your loyalty
the guy who fired you
the gal who didn’t hire you
neighbors for being nosy
neighbors for violating your right to peace and quiet
your neighbor’s dog for crapping in your yard
relatives for making your life a living hell
your obnoxious aunt
your funny but annoying uncle
the father of your first girlfriend
your former lovers
the date who stood you up
the date who slandered your good reputation
extreme liberals
those who refuse to separate Church and state
Christians
Muslims
politicians who are fiscally irresponsible
extreme conservatives
anyone who discriminates based on sexual orientation
anyone who discriminates based on race
anyone who discriminates based on nationality
republicans
democrats
God, for laughing when you announce your plans
your higher-self for being so bold on the other side
dark entities–they dislike, are repelled by forgiveness
demons, for trying to our website bring you down
Wall Street hustlers
U.S. Congress
big government
reckless government
Bin Laden
CNN News
FOX News
CNBC News
ABC News
CBS News
MSNBC News
biased media reporting
dishonest media reporting
biased reporters who have a political agenda
Katie Couric
Sarah Palin
Barack Obama
terrorists
corrupt politicians
gang-bangers
Barney Frank
Al Gore
radical environmentalists
eco-terrorists
polluters
Chris Dodd
Chris Cox
Bernie Madoff
George W. Bush
Hillary Clinton
Rush Limbaugh
Bill Clinton
classmates from high school and grade school
the economically csrracinghackcheat.com/csrracinghack/ ignorant
wealth destruction advocates
the teacher who embarrassed you
the stock market
rich people
poor people
the mob
bigots
hypocrites
affirmative action advocates
ignorant people
intolerant people
critical people
jealous people
judgmental people
gays
bis
straights
blacks
whites
Asians
Latinos
Native Americans
Indians
Chinese
Japanese
Thais
Middle Easterners
Russians
Canadians
S. Americans
C. Americans
Africans
S. Africans
Europeans
stingy people
spendthrifts
animals
teachers
priests
ministers
nuns
gamblers
alcoholics
smokers
people who toss cigarette butts out of their cars
drug addicts
loud mouths
the woman who talks way too loudly on her cell phone
the guy behind you on that flight who wouldn’t shut up
cops
cop killers
those who disrespect military personnel
those who hate Americans
criminals
And finally, yourself
That’s a lot to forgive, and we’re sure you can think of others you could forgive. But you can do it, and think how much more energy you’ll have to make the most of your life after you do.
“Always forgive your enemies – Nothing http://www.moviestarplanethackcheat.com/ annoys them so much.” – Pamela Daranjo
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